What is it that you're missing, dear?

Everybody has an idea of a happy life. And this idea changes as we grow. When we were kids, chocolates, toys were everything for us. As we grow up, our priorities change. Sometimes love, sometimes money, sometimes peace or sometimes recognition. But, getting every time just what you want or need becomes difficult. And this is one of the main causes of frustration & stress. Managing the stress is very important to live a happy & healthy life. And therefore, we arrive at the question, ‘what is really missing in our lives?’

First of all, I am going to ask you to do an exercise. Seat in a peaceful, tranquil place & relax. Now ask yourself, ‘dear, what do you really want?’ Talk with yourself as if you are interacting with one of your most beloved person in the world.

Problem well known is problem half solved. So, be precisely clear in asking your mind what does it exactly want. Precise questions lead to precise answers. Once you ask your mind the question, you will notice the things happening in your life differently. Open up yourself. Know what you really want.

Most of the times, we behave very rudely with ourselves. We criticize ourselves too much & forget that we are a human being. We think that the problem which we are facing is the toughest problem & can’t be solved easily. Who told you so? Nobody in the world can solve your problem better than yourself. No matter how complex the situation is, you can always ask your help to solve the problem.

We never claim our responsibility when we face a difficult situation. We run away from the problems when we do so. This happened because of him or her or this or that. Always remember, ‘you are responsible for everything that happens with you.’ It is the biggest secret you will ever know. But claiming the responsibility is not criticizing yourself. It just removes the burden from your mind.

Now, your mind will start talking with you. It is one of the most important conversations which we always tend to ignore. Listen to what it says carefully. Turn all your body parts into ears & listen. Whatever it says, save it in your brain. If it is missing happiness, call your friends, spend time with them, or interact with your parents & plan an outing. If you’re missing discipline start going for a walk every morning. If you’re missing love, love others like you want somebody to love you. If you’re not getting the solution ask me, I will offer you something, if I can.

The reason behind sadness is that, we never ask ourselves, what is it that I am really missing? And even if we know the answer sometimes, we reject it. My suggestion to you is never do that, because it not only hurts you but also damages your friendship with the mind. How will you feel if you suggest something to somebody & they don’t listen to you? You will not suggest them anything next time. Same thing happens with your mind. It will stop suggesting you the right & bright solutions for your problems. Listen to it & ask it as many questions as you want. Bless you! :)